Confusing relationship?

me and my girl have been together for about 2 years and things have been great wasn't till just recently that everything crashed around me. I messed up pretty bad with her and now everybody on her side wants her to dump me and are even going as far as not treating her like family anymore. Now to but it out there i didn't cheat on her but what i did do could be viewed as much worse. We have a child together and i believe that's the reason we've held as long as we have. When i say everything crashed around me i wasn't kidding my car got repossessed and i lost my job. So she had to move back in with her family and i'm stuck back home trying to get things back together. Also i didn't get in trouble with the law only thing i have on my record is a speeding ticket. But I'm 23 so to have nothing going for me by now is frowned upon and makes it even worse. So she sits back at home being bashed all the time by her so called family who can't accept her decisions so for us to stay together would just put further stress upon her. We do love each other deeply but the hate between her family and me is tearing us down. While i'm not ready to let her go and become an eventual daddy in the background I don't want her to be emotionally beat up anymore. I say it's gonna take at least another 6 months before i get back up on my feet so in the mean time she deals with that. We have talked about taking a break until i have a place ready for us but I feel as though breaks only make things worse. Anyways i'm dragging this out. I appreciate any help given and please try to hold back from any smart comments i am looking for some real potential advise....